You hit your child?

So you hit your child?  Oh, I'm sorry...You SPANK your child you said..Guess what jackass its the same thing.

I am having a huge problem writing this post today.  I have written and deleted and rewritten and re deleted. So I guess I am just going to write whatever and see how it goes.

I am not a fan of the word HATE. But if there is one thing I HATE it is Spanking. Spanking to me is the same as hitting. You may not agree and that is fine, if you want to spank your child go ahead, don't ever do it in front of me or around me and we wont have a problem.

Some parents and people believe that spanking is needed for discipline, to make your kids mind, to do what they are asked. And if a child does something wrong or makes a mistake or messes up then they get a spanking...Really, lets scare the shit out of our kids and let them live in fear.  How about we scare our kids with a hard cold dose of reality.  Hitting your child to prove a point or to make them mind doesn't prepare them for the future. Some of you are probably saying "Yes it does"...Really?  If you are in school and you forget your homework..do you get spanked?  If you are at a job and you miss a deadline..Do you get spanked? If your a spouse and you forget to pay a bill..do you get spanked?

NO!!!!!!!!  You Spankers believe you are doing your child a favor. That is bullshit. Go ahead and hit your child. What is stopping you from slapping them, pushing them down? You are trying to teach them a lesson, right and wrong, protect them? What? Why are you doing it?

I believe I was spanked maybe a handful of times by my mom and dad and guess what?  I still did shit. Bad things, things that were wrong. Yeah, I drank way too much, I did drugs, I injected steroids, I have even stole some things in my life. But wait I was spanked, shouldn't I do right?  You know I don't remember how many times I was spanked, but you know what I do remember? The times I did something wrong or made a bad choice and my parents sat me down and talked to me about it.  That had more impact on me than a spanking.

Say your child hits a brother, sister, friend that they are playing with..That is not cool, so what are you going to do, spank them?  Hit your child as a way to tell them hitting is wrong. Yeah that makes sense. If your child makes the mistake of touching something hot and burning themselves would you stick the hand back on the hot surface to tell them that was wrong? I don't get people.

I am so against spanking. I just am. I don't see the benefit of HITTING your child. And yes SPANKING is HITTING. Where does it stop?  Are you going to use your hand, belt, a switch? What happens when your child becomes immune to you spanking them? Are you going to step it up and start punching them, whiping them, water boarding them? I mean seriously, hitting is hitting, whether it is with a hand, belt, stick or whatever.

So you beat your kid and I will put mine in time out, do Love and Logic and talk to my children about what they have done and how to fix it and not do it again. 

I always make it know on my blog, in my personal life whatever that I may make a lot of mistakes with my kid...but one thing I will never ever do is put my hands on my kids in a harmful way. 

Instead of spanking, try talking to your kids about what they have done. Try other methods of disciplining your child or children. There are so many other alternatives to HITTING them. Time outs, talking, Love and Logic, I mean if you are a spanker and you take the time to do some research you might find other ways deal with your kids.

I could go on and on and on about this but I am leaving like this. I feel like this post is somewhat incomplete, but my mind is scattered right now over this.