Communicating with People who have Dementia

By Jodi Bellam
http://betteroffathome.com

There is nothing more difficult than having a love one with dementia. The illness makes it almost impossible to communicate with them. This makes the situation overwhelming and stressful for all involved. I would like to give some tips on things you can do to have better communication and ease the day-to-day hardships of this devastating disease.

Stay positive

Your body language and facial expressions tell more than your words. Speak calmly and respectfully. Be understanding and companionate.

Limit distractions

Take your loved one to a quiet place. Get down on their level and look into their eyes. Rub their arm or leg while you are speaking to them. Speak slowly and clearly.

 Be clear

Use simple words and phrases. Their brain does not compute like it used to. If they do not understand, tell them it’s OK and repeat what you said exactly. If they still do not understand wait a minute, try again and try to stay calm. Some days will be better than others.

Ask one thing at a time

Simple yes and no questions are best. If you are giving them a choice, show than the choices. Example: if you ask “Do you want an apple or pear” then show them the apple and the pear. They will understand visual over verbal.

Becoming upset

If your loved one becomes upset, redirect them with a suggestion of maybe a walk or snack. Don’t try to find out what is wrong, just redirect them. If you take their mind off the problem they will forget it ever happened.

Activities

Even though someone has dementia, they still need a sense of purpose. Have them fold washcloths or dust a table. It gives them the feeling of being needed.

Out of touch with reality

Many times a person with dementia will confuse reality and something they saw on T.V. Do not argue with them on what is real or not. If their brain tells them it real you are not going to change their mind. You will make them feel confused and insecure. They will defend their belief and become upset. Try to control what they watch on T.V. shows with a lot of violence will set them off.

Sense of humor

Feel free to laugh at something they do. Just tell them how much fun they are and how much you enjoy spending time with them. 

Remember you’re not alone; there are many people in the world having to take care of a love one with dementia. You might find it helpful to find a support group. Understanding the disease will help you cope with the stress. It’s important to find something positive every day.

For more information contact:
Jodi Bellam
jodi@betteroffathome.com